**Disclaimer: This blog is for anyone who relates to these lesser-known facets typically associated with ADHD. Whether you are formally diagnosed or relate to ADHD, Autism, to the term AuDHD, identify as neurospicy, or are simply curious about how your brain works and functions, then this blog is for you.**
When people think of those who may struggle with ADHD, they typically picture someone who's always bouncing off the walls, unable to focus on the task at hand, or prone to daydreaming. While these may be experiences that someone with ADHD may encounter, there's so much more to the ADHD spectrum than just hyperactivity and distraction. Those who struggle with ADHD know that it is truly a spectrum with a wide range of experiences that can affect multiple aspects of a person’s life. People are often surprised to learn about the lesser-known “symptoms” and feel great comfort knowing they are not alone. Below, I have only begun to scratch the surface of the lesser-known or talked about experiences of ADHD… it's important to remember that everyone’s experience of this spectrum is unique and valid.
rejection sensitivity
Ever felt like what one might perceive as a suggestion from your boss hits you like a ton of bricks? Or have you ever felt overwhelming emotions after your partner asked you to change the way you do something around the house? You rationally know that the critique or the request was valid, but all of a sudden, you feel defensive, rejected, or not good enough. That is precisely what Rejection Sensitivity feels like. It's the experience of feeling intense emotions from perceived rejection or criticism. Often, people who struggle with Rejection Sensitivity are called sensitive or dramatic, and the thing is, this isn’t just sensitivity; Rejection Sensitivity is a complex experience that feels very much like legitimate rejection or criticism.
emotional dysregulation
Do you ever find that your emotions are not “proportionate” to the situation? Maybe someone has said that you feel things “very strongly.” Perhaps your emotions feel “too big” or “not rational.” Well, another lesser-known experience of those who struggle with ADHD is emotional dysregulation or the emotional rollercoaster…You might find yourself getting super upset over “small things” or struggling to calm down once you're frustrated or mad. Understanding that this dysregulation of emotions is a common experience for many neurodiverse folks can be crucial in your ability to regulate your emotions and communicate your emotional experiences with others.
executive dysfunction
Have you ever found yourself sitting down to start one task, only to realize hours later that you’ve done everything but that task? Maybe you intended to unload the dishwasher, but instead, you ended up shopping online, scrolling through social media, and eventually falling down a YouTube hole for a couple of hours. This is a classic example of executive dysfunction, a common and overlooked experience for those who may struggle with ADHD. executive dysfunction can make it seem like even the most simple tasks are draining and need all your effort and energy. It’s not about laziness or lack of effort; it’s a genuine struggle with the brain's ability to manage and regulate tasks. Executive Dysfunction can lead to missed deadlines, unfinished projects, and feelings of frustration and guilt. Understanding and finding ways to manage executive dysfunction is important for handling daily responsibilities more effectively.
hyperfocus
Contrary to popular belief, ADHD isn’t just about being distracted; sometimes, it’s the opposite. Many people who may struggle with ADHD feel confused about how they can complete specific tasks but not others, often excelling in tasks that others would describe as more complex. Surprise: individuals with ADHD are capable of focusing! It just has to be interesting enough to them, so that their brain doesn't feel like it's work, and that can be the hard part. This hyperfocus can be great for getting things done but not so great when you accidentally ignore other responsibilities. Hyperfocusing is such a common and confusing experience for neurodiverse folks, and when understood, it can actually be pretty helpful in day-to-day life.
sensory needs/overload
Do you ever feel overwhelmed by all the lights, sounds, options, and people at the grocery store? Or you may find yourself unable to get work done because all you can focus on is the tag inside your shirt. If so, you're not alone. Many neurodiverse folks, including those with ADHD, have different sensory needs and sensitivities, which can make certain environments feel unbearable. Because people with ADHD are much more alert, they tend to pick up on and may be bothered by sensory experiences that other people may not be. On the flip side, because of this alertness to different stimuli, many neurodiverse people need extra sensory experiences such as fidget toys, alternative chairs for work/school, or headphones to control audio input. By recognizing these sensory needs, finding ways to manage new sensory experiences, and adjusting current environments, folks can create environments and experiences that work best for them.
I hope that as you read this blog, you felt understood, seen, validated, or learn something new about the wide range of experiences those with ADHD may encounter. Keep advocating for your needs, and consider reaching out to professionals who truly comprehend the full spectrum and nuances of neurodiversity.
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